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By Ozzie_ How to Have a Killer Identity In Dating That Would Bring Her Down

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     Hey guys,
    <span style="font-weight:bold">In this article you will learn:
    How to break through your "false" identity
    How to define your identity in dating
    How to change your identity
    </span>
    Comments are&nbsp;welcome.
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    <span style="font-weight:bold">Who you are</span>
    It is possible to know who you are. You don't have to go on
    a cave or spiritual retreat to find that out. Mostly you would have to make an
    inventory of your <span style="font-weight:bold">behaviours and beliefs and scrutinize them</span> for clues as to
    you really are. Who you are is already happening, it is just that you are not
    really made aware of it. Living in denial about who you really are could be
    part of your identity.

    I remember somebody telling me one time I was
    "kind" and I didn't think he was referring to me. However, I explored
    my identity and found kindness there under a hip of assumptions and
    rationalizations about me. Another time I thought I was a coach and that was
    who I was. But on more scrutiny I realized I was really a teacher. The answer
    was always simpler. I just needed to pay attention.

    <span style="font-weight:bold">&nbsp;Identity as a source of misery</span>
    All pain comes from not knowing. That's why a maxim is
    spirituality is "Know Thyself". That's where true freedom lies.
    Because if you know yourself you won't be a victim of fake identities or
    "super imposed" labels like "geeky computer programmer"
    or&nbsp; "weirdo with girls" or&nbsp;anything like that. Problems starts when identity is defined from outside. You
    start pinging off your <span style="font-weight:bold">environment to define who you are</span>. So if a girl happens to
    reject you, then all of a sudden you are "bad with girls". That will
    cause you to bleed from that identity. Subconsciously you might be doing things
    to "live up" to that identity. What people think of you can't be your
    identity because they only know the superficial you. I used to make my clients
    draw on program "how others saw them" and then, another drawing of
    how they really saw themselves. Then I would help them define their real
    identities by creating a more truthful picture of who they were with elements
    of both. This exercise help them present themselves to women in more truthful,
    grounded way.

    <span style="font-weight:bold">Vulnerability</span>
    Your real identity should make you feel vulnerable. You must
    not present yourself to others like a superhero because it would be far from
    who you really are. I normally advice my students to <span style="font-weight:bold">a</span><span style="font-weight:bold">cknowledge to women </span>when
    they feel awkward by talking with them. By admitting their shortcoming to a
    woman, not only they connect with her at a more human level, they find out it
    doesn't affect the interaction, but helps ground it. Next time, you approach tell
    a girl, "It feels awkward talking to you like this but I had to...".
    If you feel like that for real. You must remain genuine. That's far more
    powerful than playing superhero smooth talker. Actually, you might say that
    admitting you feel awkward is smooth talking.

    <span style="font-weight:bold">Identity change</span>
    Not really. You might want to get rid of false identities
    you have adopted out of need or out of lack of identity.
    For example, it might suit you to describe yourself as
    "a nerd" because it is comfortable. By assuming that nerds are not
    successful with women, you don't have to step out of comfort zone and approach
    a hot girl you like. You want to get <span style="font-weight:bold">rid of all self-serving identities </span>that
    keep you miserable. You want to foster more challenging identities that remain
    under the surface. You must dig deep.

    <span style="font-weight:bold">Being A Work in Progress, never finished</span>
    As a defective man, you might find yourself playing the role
    of "invulnerable". This identity is based on fear. By trying to be
    invulnerable, you will delay the formation of a true identity. You will keep
    yourself in misery that way. There is a lot of wishful thinking involved in an
    "incomplete" person. They are always wishing they were different but
    they are not. He might mask it by creating a huge following in facebook, or
    social media, creating a family for selfish reasons, being a jerk when he
    doesn't have to. He plays into the image of the superhero.

    On the flip side, a complete person is not afraid <span style="font-weight:bold">to be
    vulnerable and fail.</span> As a complete human being you have gone beyond your
    condition of being imperfect. You accept failure and mistakes and realize they
    are not the end of the world. You don't need others to complete you. That's
    where the freedom is. You are not trapped in an identity that doesn't suit you.
    You are miserable when you don't know who you really are. Human condition is
    one of emotional pain. Get in touch with the pain, and you are human. Try to
    avoid it and you become a robot.
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    September 27-29, 2013: Oslo, Norway&nbsp;
    October 11-13, 2013: London, United Kingdom&nbsp;
    October 18-20, 2013: Frankfurt, Germany&nbsp;
    October 25-27, 2013: London, United Kingdom&nbsp;(Special Daygame Only Bootcamp)&nbsp;
    November 1-3, 2013: Zurich, Switzerland&nbsp;
    November 8-10, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands&nbsp;
    November 15-17, 2013: London, United Kingdom&nbsp;
    November 22-24, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden&nbsp;
    November 29-December 1, 2013: London, United&nbsp;Kingdom&nbsp;
    December 6-8, 2013: Copenhagen, Denmark</span>
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